Validating hurt feelings in a relationship 2cam adult
This will help us set our boundaries which are necessary to protect our physical and mental health. Our facial expressions, for example, can convey a wide range of emotions.
If we look sad or hurt, we are signaling to others that we need their help.
But since a lot of dads don’t know this, they get frustrated when their wife wants a break or is resistant to parenting their child.
The fact is, there are some very good reasons why it’s often harder to stepparent than it is to parent.
Most of us have felt pain burning like a hot coal in our hands and felt desperate to unload it, somehow, somewhere.
Nature developed our emotions over millions of years of evolution.
Thus, underneath all of these behaviors lie unconscious motives that serve to keep him safe in his comfort zone.
If we are effective at listening to the emotional troubles of others, we are better able to help them feel understood, important and cared about.
But this can often backfire as there are many challenges a stepparent faces that usually don’t exist for the parent; challenges that make it exhausting, and sometimes impossible, to “parent” another’s child, especially early on in the relationship.
The relationship between stepparent and stepchild will take years to develop and forcing it may actually delay things, or prevent it from ever happening, as negative feelings and resentments build.
A common expectation from divorced dads is that their partner will step in and parent their children.
They might think that if their partner spends more time with the child, a bond will occur quickly and they’ll be a “real” family.
She mentioned she’d received her first harsh comment, and she wanted to know if this is normal, and how she should deal with it.